Quotes for Nasty Women and Catholic School Daze

th  Growing up in Catholic school with nuns as the arbiters of comportment left little room for deviant behavior that would go unpunished, unless you didn’t get caught.  The nuns discouraged “nasty” girls who where outspoken, yet ironically cited historical women who had achieved some fame as role models – Eleanor Roosevelt, Elizabeth Cady Stanton, and others.  Linda Picone notes the modern version of compelling women in her collection referencing lines by women who dared to speak their minds in Quotes for Nasty Women.  

This short book has over three hundred pages of one liners from women novelists, politicians, actors, entrepreneurs, and other women of influence.  Just for fun, I picked out six quotes by an assortment of famous “nasty women”  who are among my favorites – both the women and the quotes.  Can you guess who said which?

The women who said the lines below are:    irreverent  New York Times columnist Maureen Dowd, my favorite chef Julia Child, ubiquitous poet Emily Dickinson, the long-lasting influential Queen Victoria, American singer Joan Baez, and the witty American writer Dorothy Parker.  The answers are at the bottom of the post.


  1. “The important thing is not what they think of me, but what I think of them.”
  2. ” I dwell in possibility.”
  3. “I’ve never had a humble opinion.  If you’ve got an opinion, why be humble about it?”
  4. “The first thing I do in the morning is brush my teeth and sharpen my tongue.”
  5. “Drama is very important in life: You have to come in with a bang.  You never want to go out with a whimper.”
  6. “The minute you settle for less than you deserve, you get even less than you settled for.”

Perhaps the strongest influences in my life were the nuns, and Thea Marshall brought back that memory in her short story “Catholic School Daze” in the book Tuesdays at Two, a compilation of short writings by a local writer’s group.  Little girls, thankfully, often grow up to be “nasty women.”


Answers to the list of quotes:

  1. Queen Victoria
  2. Emily Dickinson
  3. Joan Baez
  4. Dorothy Parker
  5. Julia Child
  6. Maureen Dowd



The Child Finder and Elizabeth Smart

61JqRLhUD5L._AC_US218_Rene Denfeld’s The Child Finder reminded me of  the 2002 kidnapping of Elizabeth Smart, a story I had heard on the news. I had avoided reading Smart’s account of her nine months in captivity in her book, “My Story,”  but this fictionalized tale of a young girl  stolen in the woods, abducted by a trapper who had once been a victim himself, revealed the horror and strength of missing children.  Fiction can be as true as fact.

In 2002, fourteen-year-old Elizabeth Smart was taken from her home in the middle of the night, kept chained and repeatedly raped. In Denfeld’s The Child Finder, a young girl, Madison, gets lost in a snowy wood in Oregon when she and her family are looking for the perfect Christmas tree to cut down.  A deaf trapper finds her, almost dead from the cold, and hides her in the dirt cellar of his cabin in the woods.  Madison survives by telling herself remembered folktales, and imagines she is now someone else, outside her own self and in the body of the Snow Girl, a fairytale she knows from before she was taken.  Denfeld masks the horror of the sexual abuse and the beatings with the girl’s stories;  her resilience and determination shine through the misery and offer hope for a rescue.

After years of fruitless searching, Madison’s parents hire Naomi, an acclaimed investigator and tracker with a reputation for finding lost children.  Naomi, who escaped her abductors as a child, struggles with her own demons – a haunting past she only remembers in nightmares.  As she pursues clues leading her to finding Madison, Naomi searches not only for the lost girl but also for her own lost identity.

Elizabeth Smart is the real life embodiment of a Naomi, transformed from victim to advocate.  After her rescue in 2003, she rejoined her family and continues to work to restore her life.  I look forward to meeting her soon at a book reading.

The Child Finder is not an easy read, but Denfeld uses her own experience as a Portland-based journalist and private investigator, as well as the adoptive mother of three foster children, to create a powerful and disquieting novel.

Suspend Belief and Enjoy “The House at the End of Hope Street” by Menna van Pragg

9781410461346_p0_v1_s192x300   As a fan of magical realism in literature, I thoroughly enjoyed an old book by an author new to me – The House at the End of Hope Street by Menna van Pragg.  The idea for the story was inspired by van Pragg’s yearning to establish a house for female artists to give them a year to fulfull their artistic ambitions.  This house, however, exists in its own dimension, only appearing to those who need it.

Van Pragg’s story revolves around three women who need motivation to follow their dreams – Alba, the youngest woman admitted to Cambridge who is betrayed by her family and her university advisor; Greer, who at thirty-nine has yet to achieve her goals of becoming an actress and a mother; and Carmen, the sexy singer with a murderous past.

Taking a cue from the Harry Potter books, van Pragg has portraits on the walls coming alive to speak and give advice.  These pictures, however, are of famous women,  from literary giants – Virginia Woolf, Dorothy Parker, Sylvia Plath, Agatha Christie  – to esteemed scientists and suffragettes.  The stream of prominent women marching through the plot adds to the fun as each of the main characters faces her challenge and moves on to a better life.   Words stream by in banners, notes mysteriously drop from the chandeliers, colors surround characters in auras of emotion.  The House mysteriously and suddenly provides whatever its occupants need: a magical wardrobe (a nod to C.S. Lewis), shelves of books with titles constantly refreshed, a baby grand piano.

If you enjoy the tales of Erin Morgenstern, Sarah Addison Allen, and  Alice Hoffman, you might add Menna van Pragg to your list of happy diversions – magical realism with a British flavor.

When I discovered van Pragg had written a book with the irresistible title of Men, Money, and Chocolate (2009) – with recipes, I ordered it immediately as an ebook ($1.99).  The story is a little too heavy on schmaltz and not my style, but the recipes may be worth trying.    Van Pragg’s The Witches of Cambridge, (2016) looks like more fun  and is on my list, as is her latest from England to be published in the United States soon – The Lost Art of Letter Writing.  Unknown-2

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International Women’s Day

9780230294011_p0_v1_s114x166Today marks International Women’s Day, a celebration of women around the world that has been observed since the early 1900’s. .  In some places like China, Russia, Vietnam and Bulgaria, International Women’s Day is a national holiday.  In Britain, Professor Elisabeth Kelan will discuss her book – Rising Stars – an examination of the next generation’s female leaders.

Books to read to celebrate the day… what books would you add to the list?

The Red Tent by Anita Diamant 9780312427290_p0_v3_s114x166

The Poisonwood Bible by Barbara Kingsolver9780060786502_p0_v3_s114x166

Cleopatra: A Life  by Stacy Schiff9780316001946_p0_v1_s114x166

Girl Reading

In a series of vignettes from 1333 through to the twenty-first century, Katie Ward examines the feminine mystique in Girl Reading. Each story stands unconnected and alone, assessing different roles of women – mother, child, victim, lover, object, caretaker, professional. The common element is a picture of a woman reading, but at a different stage in history. Without knowing this, and with the absence of quotation marks to identify when the character is speaking, the book can be confusing at first, with some chapters more engaging than others.

Immediately clear is the underlying role of women throughout history – from subservient supporter to independent decider. The first story, set in a medieval town, focuses on an orphaned girl who is chosen by the clergy to pose as the Madonna for a politically dangerous fresco. When the artist discovers that the girl, who is destined for the convent when she comes of age, is pregnant, the author poses anachronistic choices, and frames the argument about her future as well as a modern debate. The chapter ends with nothing decided.

The book then jumps to 1668 with a deaf and motherless servant girl as the focus of an artist’s love. Comparison with The Girl with the Pearl Earring may be tempting, as the artist, a contemporary of Rembrandt, immortalized the girl in his painting.

Other stories include a woman painter in 1775 who helps a lonely Duchess reconcile the death of her female lover, followed in 1864 by a story that includes a photographer, a medium, a copy of Mrs. Beeton’s book on “Household Management,” and a twin with a unique gift. As Ward proceeds into current time, her story set in 2008 is hard to understand, until you read the last one set in 2060. If you’ve wondered how the world will cope with the continuing explosion of technology, and its effect on reading in the not too distant future, Ward offers a clever response through her seventh and last story – one that finally explains the preceding six chapters.

Each episode carefully reveals accurate historic context, as new characters appear with each story and into the future. Using stream of consciousness and first person narrative, Ward effectively reveals her characters, but their disjointed thoughts sometimes make the action difficult or nonexistent.

More like a series of short stories – with O’Henry endings (ambiguous and sometimes surprising) – except for the resounding theme underlying the whole, Girl Reading is worth examining. Ward offers a contemporary voice within this historical framework. Sprinkled with a little romance and intrigue, the stories are good too. And her message is clear – reading books is important.